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Fundamentals of Society-Building: It Does Not End in Marriage

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People often make frantic efforts to get involved in marriage related activities once they find themselves growing out of adolescent age. Even before they leave adolescence, their minds are usually preoccupied with issues relating to the opposite sex, especially with respect to the permanent relationship with those they cherish. At least several preparations are made regarding what it takes to get married to the one they eventually choose as either wife or husband, as the case may be.

Preparing for marriage is usually taken for an end in itself as far as people are concerned in this digital era. Once a young man grows to the point he gets preoccupied with getting married, his concern consumes him to the point that he may not even bother to know if there is any thing like preparation for the marriage itself, not to talk of preparing for any other thing beyond marriage. 

Most marriage counselors also fall into the same short thinking in dealing with what to expect from each marriage partner. The type of wedding ceremony and its scope as well as class, the location of each marriage ceremony like traditional and wedding proper, whether the popular church wedding or court wedding, what size of audience as well as class, what amount of entertainment and refreshment, and other nitty gritties associated with the event.

The writer notes that of all the references listed for the reader which was the essential bulk of readings made before getting married, the challenge posed by lack of materials specifically tailored to how the respective couples should cope with the arduous task of parenting informed the creation of the eBook, Proper Parenting of Children in Formative Years, by C. N. C. Ejiofor, the contents being published in this blog site: http://cncejiofor. blogspot.com, for serious-minded readers.

Family establishment does not end in marriage. In fact the marriage ceremony marks the beginning of the real purpose for marriage which God himself instituted. This is also the reason God stands in defence of the marriage institution because of the premium he places on the marriage institution. When he gave orders for the marriage to produce children in multiplied numbers, he also was concerned that the population would follow after their kind, offspring bearing the likeness of God himself. This is why God gave parents to children. God required parents to assume this great work of parenting their children with a promise of blessing those parents who succeed in this big task of ensuring that children follow their parents to walk in the way of the LORD God, the creator. 

It becomes very important that young people ought to prepare for both marriage and parenting in pari passu. Failure to do so has resulted in the chaotic character issues that have bedeviled societies all through the ages. 

The eBook, Proper Parenting of Children in Formative Years, by C. N. C. Ejiofor, is an attempt by the author to provide necessary information to those preparing for marriage as well as parents and teachers who are in the field of parenting to enable them succeed with the task. 

It is important to note that those who have not prepared themselves for parenting usually end up being just mere fathers and mothers, as the case may be. Every adult has this choice to make, in the final analysis. Needless to say, one’s choice would inevitably determine their reward. Everyone must reap what they sow. If one sows proper parenting no doubt they shall reap the positive fruits of their labor; but if, on the other hand, one ignores the necessary approaches and concepts canvassed in the eBook, Proper Parenting of Children in Formative Years, then your guess shall equally be as good as mine. This calls for wisdom to make the right choice. 


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