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Motivating Quick Review of the EBook, Effective Parenting of Children in Their Formative Years, By C.N.C. Ejiofor.

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A quick look at the eBook contents: There is a Table of Contents; followed by the Dedication Page, Acknowledgement Page and Introduction Page. It is important to identify who a parent is. You may be surprised to know that not everyone who engages a spouse and produces children qualifies as a parent. Parenting transcends just having the capacity to reproduce or procreate.
Then we must address the roles of the father. Here is a revolutionary idea that places the onus of child discipline squarely on the father of the house, not the mother as is generally believed. The reason for this stance is clearly stated.
The role of the mother is explained as complementary notwithstanding the fact that she has a very close attachment to the child right from conception and spends more time with the child in most cases. This derives from the complementary position of leadership determined by God the creator during and after creation. This, in no way, conveys approval for the contemporary societal discriminations against women. This is understandable, however, considering that the man figure was first created and vested with immense authority and influence, dominion, over all other creatures, possibly including the woman. Any attempt to reverse this God-given complementary role of the woman in child upbringing usually produces an unbalanced child development issues in the life of the child which would naturally be obvious to informed observers. This information is vital to the reader in other to make progress in proper child upbringing in real life. The importance of love in the relationship of both parents with reference to their influence on the child's character development is paramount. Most delinquent children are products of broken homes. Children with bad character traits are often products of unloving parents both in relation to both spouses and the spouses with the child. Overprotection of the child out of poor relationship of the spouses with themselves will cause the child to take up traits that would have been dropped if both parents were firm on their singular demand to drop or pick any trait depending on its desirability or otherwise. Scientifically proved developmental processes that a child undergoes and the character traits appropriate for the age that needed reinforcement or removal as the case may be were to be underscored, studied and applied. Practical issues about the actual training of the child are detailed. It is important to note that the ideas canvassed have been proved over time and there is apparent guarantee that they will work if applied consistently. It is also necessary to reinforce that most parents find the ideas both too simple and radical, hence, some react with skepticism while others resort to self-defense when their responsibilities or failures or both glare them on their faces. There is a discussion on the reason for teaching and what to do when teaching appears to fail. In the beginning of the eBook Proper Parenting of Children in Formative Years, by C. N. C. Ejiofor, the writer made a case for parenting as a God-given responsibility and why God has the first, as well as final  say, in matters of life and our liability to fulfilling that responsibility. At the end, the writer had to stress that parents must depend on God for the realization of the goal of producing children of noble characters and leave the results of their efforts to him as the sole proprietor of life. Just as the parents have limited role in the actual physical growth of the child so also their role in actual production of acceptable character traits in the child is limited. Hence, the need to depend on God Almighty for ultimate results. This is effectively portrayed. Readers are appreciated in advance for their interest and wonderful reading of the contents of this blog site and engagement with the contents of the eBook. Everyone needed to access this volume content and learn to apply the necessary concepts and precepts in training their own contemporary and coming generations for a better society. You are warmly welcome!

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