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Negative Behaviors By Deformed Parents That Influence Children In Formative Years.

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 1. Lying. 2. Hatred. 3. Violence (including verbal). 4. Suspicion. 5. Negligence and Ignorance. These are negative behaviors to consider here:

1. Parents who tell lies and induce their children to tell lies in one way or the other succeed in teaching the children to be liars unaware of the consequences. Some people are deceived that they can avoid punishment or accountability by lying. This is far from reality. The fact is that truth is a proven weapon of defence. Wise people seldom punish someone when they tell the truth even when they are indicted. To do otherwise is to encourage people to live a lie which is very dangerous. 

2. Children copy hatred from parents who are very hateful. This writer lives in a place where his landlord and the brother's family members hate themselves. The relations of the landlord transferred their hatred to this writer as well. In time their children joined them to hate this writer to the point of not greeting every time they meet themselves on the way. This is a very bad influence that makes children hate with or without any reason at all. It is very condemnable. 

3. Children grow up to learn violence when they live with parents that are fond of issuing threats to children as a disciplinary or cautionary measure. "I'll slap you!" "I'll beat you!" "I'll kill you ...", are types of verbal violence common with some parents. Some parents do make good of some of such threats thereby influencing their children with such negative behavior. Children often make good such threats thinking that they are normal behaviors. But they are not and can never be. Children who are violent often create a noisy environment around them and form a nuisance for civilized neighbors. 

4. Children treated with suspicion lose self confidence and worthiness. They often learn to put up a front. At times they may succumb to lying to gain approval instead of suspicion. Suspicion is a subtle suggestion to live a lie or always put up a front. It encourages artificiality. This is undesirable for any normal child who should rather be groomed to be responsible by trusting and appreciation.

5. I've often noticed when  a child would be calling out repeatedly, "mummy", "mummy", "mummy", "mummy", without any response from the mum who is very much available but distracted, disgusted or outright negligent. This is a sure way of teaching the child that it is normal to ignore a call or neglect it without being perturbed. The same parent will not tolerate such behavior from that same child when things turn around and they are the ones calling their children and being snubbed as such. Their frustration and desperation know no bounds at such times. 

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